We live our lives forever taking leave - Rilke
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Tuesday, 28 April 2026
Tuesday, April 28/2026
Monday, April 27/2026
Jean in good spirits and happy to see we’ve brought a bottle of wine, which she probably drinks only when we’re visiting. She’s ninety-one now, which she notes with some pride.
Things have changed somewhat since our last visit in October. She now has 24 hour carers. This means two twelve hour shifts, eight to eight. The day shift carer now is a middle-aged Somali woman, pleasant and cheerful. Turns down our offer of a glass of wine as she’s Muslim, though she does admit that some Muslims do drink.
Dora, Jean’s regular weekly cleaner comes round. She’s been with Jean for years and is a treasure. Romanian born and not only cleans but does the grocery shopping and frequently brings home cooking. At first we aren’t sure if we’ve met before. The answer is no, but we’ve heard so much about each other that we’re not quite sure.
The carers aren’t allowed to clean as part of their contract, which is limited to personal care. Jean says she does pay, but not a lot, which is a tribute in part to her council, which is more generous and no doubt better funded than many in the UK.
So there’s always company. And not only hired, though they act more like friends than employees. Next door neighbour Gwyneth pops in every morning to have coffee and disagree cheerfully about politics.
Pass a juice shop on Kilburn High Road on our way home. Window display entirely pomegranates. Don’t buy juice but do pick up a rotisserie chicken from one of the Arabic shops.
Sunday, 26 April 2026
Sunday, April 26/2026
View from the window of our studio. Well earned after the 39 steps up. Though not a record number. That was seven years ago in Bulgaria at 86 steps. Window opening on trees, red brick Victorian terraced houses, and the occasional large magpie.
Bacon and eggs. London now the only place we stay where we buy side bacon, having given up on water injected bacon where it’s all too easy to stick your finger through
while separating the rashers. No doubt there are better possibilities in Canada but we never hit them.
And the eggs lovely and golden yolked free range ones. Lazy Sunday morning.
Saturday, April 25/2026
To Thames Ditton to visit Jenny and Doug and family for the day. Spring thoroughly in bloom here and dozens of kinds of flowers and flowering shrubs in exuberant mode as we walk from the train station.
Take the route through the village which is happily busy with people visiting the little shops and drinking coffee in the sun. A queue outside the obviously popular local bakery.
Met at the door by Doug and Jenny, Doug using a cane - as well as naproxen - in response to a recent knee injury. And we get a treat from the little bakery with the queue - lovely pastries with our coffee. Then over to Laura’s to admire the transformations Damon has made in their house. Hadn’t seen the before version, but the house is an impressive tribute to his skill and designer eye - as is the back garden, a tropical oasis appreciated by the jungle minded cats.
Late lunch back at J and D’s with soup and cottage pie. Then joined by Emma with Jasmine and Noah, and later Giles and we sun ourselves in the garden. The day had been a little chilly to start with but afternoon temperature decently over 20 in the sun. Overseen by one or two crows - carrion crows, a little larger and stockier than ours, and apparently less sociable though no less intelligent.
And after Emma and crew have left, Jenny’s cheese course. Which turns out to be somewhat more than the excellent cheeses and includes slices of very impressive French sausage with truffle. Very good work on the part of the truffle hunting pigs. Though I understand that pigs are not commonly used to find truffles any more. The female pigs apparently find the truffle scent attractively similar to male pig pheromones and can detect it as much as three feet underground. But then it seems they disgrace themselves by damaging the truffle beds and eating the truffles.
Lovely day and much conversation as well as good food.
Saturday, 25 April 2026
Friday, April 24/2026
Studio we’ve stayed in before. In fact by the time I had the key out my iPad mini was chirping excitedly. It had remembered and connected with the WiFi. Tiny but well equipped and everything works.
Leisurely start to the day. No real agenda other than reacquainting ourselves with the street and getting in some basics - fruit, eggs, mushrooms, onions, bread. And pork and bacon. Bacon isn’t unavailable in North Cyprus but it’s not part of the culture and shops often don’t carry it. And English bacon is exceptionally good.
Friday, 24 April 2026
Thursday, April 23/2026
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Thursday, 23 April 2026
Wednesday, April 22/2026
Last day. Packing, obviously. And always seem to end up with too much food. Which leaves me presenting the woman across the hallway with a bag containing two onions and a potato. We have very nearly no language in common. Not sure she has even understood that we are leaving tomorrow, and if she hasn’t the potato and onion must have seemed like an extremely odd gift. As in these foreigners have strange customs. Or do you suppose she’s suffering from dementia.
So repair to Google translate and Turkish keyboard. Brief explanation and wishes for a good summer. As usual feed it into reverse translation to be sure. Looks fine. Copy out the Turkish on a scrap of paper and hand it over. Light dawns. Communication achieved.
Tuesday, 21 April 2026
Tuesday, April 21/2026
J notes that the Greek church up the hill from us has begun glowing in the late afternoon. Of course the days are getting longer. Sunset later than it was, but not as late as. northern countries. We’re roughly Latitude 35.33 N. And at the same time the sun is setting more to the west and less to the southwest, which for us means that sunset has moved from its winter spot behind the mountain peaks. So now we get to see the warm glow of the stone church tower at dinner time.
Finishing the rock cakes J comments that they remind him of shortbread. And with good reason. Haven’t made shortbread but the main ingredients are basically the same (save for the raisins in the rock cakes) and furthermore the proportions of butter, sugar and flour are almost identical.
Towels washed, ants murdered. Tasks proceeding.
Monday, 20 April 2026
Monday, April 20/2026
Errand day. Mobile phone shop to make arrangements for suspending service when we’re away. Have to admit that they’re better about doing this than Canadian mobile providers, who seem to want to have you prepay at horrific rates or pay for full year contracts. Some translation difficulties, though. The monthly suspension fee they refer to as a fine, which always sounds unduly punitive. Bell Canada doesn’t call the suspension charge a fine but suppose it amounts to more or less the same thing. And Bell doesn’t want to see your passport in order to do business but probably know more about you than your nearest and dearest anyway.
The only phone number we have year round is a UK mobile number. Based, of course in a country where we rarely spend more than three weeks, but works anywhere in the world. Not horrifically expensive, and in fact quite reasonable - except when used in TRNC and Türkiye, which seems to have not made inexpensive arrangements with any other country - except perhaps Azerbaijan. Not unreasonably expensive to use in Canada for us, but many Canadians have contracts that don’t include communicating with non-North American numbers.
Yes, of course. Communication possible in ways undreamt of in our youth. On the other hand, the assumption of both businesses and governments is that everyone has not only a telephone but, in many cases a smart mobile phone. (And yes, there are unsmart cellular phones still in existence. And very nice our last one was, too. Slid into a smallish pocket and used easily available inexpensive batteries which I, alone and unaided, could install in about twenty seconds). So countries will proudly proclaim that their networks cover, for example. 96% of the “landmass” (UK) or 99% of the population (Bell Canada mobility). Have a correspondent in Wales who lives in a spot that doesn’t receive a signal, which causes endless difficulty with agencies that are simply not equipped to deal with exceptions. And am dubious about the accuracy of Bell’s claim.
Telsim not our only stop, though. Acquire ant powder at the excellent DYI, which, unlike the mobile shop does not require either passports or cash despite our undisguised intent to commit murder. Then other stops for raisins, Turkish pepper, and black olives. Olives now reposing in the sun awaiting pitting.









